Sound Off [5]

'You were the best mistake I've made.' -Anon.

Often people talk about how they were happy that dated certain people, and were happier that they went through that relationship. I can say the same thing myself, I have found myself out of relationships that I was happy that I was involved with. Could say that most of them were with boys, as you may have discovered already, but a few relationships have been with girls.

There are a few girls that I have known that I learned a few lessons from. One of which was not to trust the first guy that I met, not to get pregnant and have a child and to figure out what I'm doing in life or else I'll end up on the fast track to loserville.

Of the first 'best friend' I had, a relationship that lasted almost to middle school, I learned a number of things from her. She was an intersting character, Justine was. I learned from her that if I wasn't old enough to understand what was going on, then I probably wasn't old enough to worry about it. For instance, she wanted to watch Sleepy Hollow, but I had to call home first to see if I could watch it. Well, as it turns out I couldn't because I wasn't 13 yet. The only reason why she could was because she had an older brother. Quite frankly, when I finally did watch the film seven years later, I was still pretty scared that something was going to bite me. She was more exposed to different things because she had an older brother, and since I had a younger brother I took care to be careful of what I watched. As years passed our lives become more and more seperated and I found myself looking at her in a different light. Gone was the years where we found amusement in catching bugs to feed to the chickens, gone were the years where we told ghost stories about different characters we found in schools, gone were the years of innocent play. She grew up, too fast for my liking, and when I confronted her about her latest behavior, she turned against me. I don't blame her, she must have looked at me and seen a small girl who still found amusement in the Disney movies and in chasing lightning bugs across the yard. I'll cherish the memories, though few there were, but as for calling her a friend again, I don't know if I will.

Another girl, Cora, showed me a few things. She showed me that its okay to be crazy, but not so crazy that you push everyone away and not care. She showed me how it was okay to write, but the more you dissagreed, the less you were liked. It wasn't about having your own style, it was more about having your own style that others appreciate. The best form of flattery is imitation, is it not? And the more drama you created around yourself, the less people wished to hear about it. The less drama that you created around yourself then the more friends you are likely to have appreciate hearing your voice. She also taught me to wait for the man that makes your life better, not wait for the man that promises you a ring then does not keep his word.

Another girl, Dora, gave me an inspiration. It wasn't just about who saw your hair, its how you wore your hair. She dyed it a few colors, and she was admired for her bravery. She though, has a man that takes care of her, which is another trait that I admire in her. Of course, the silly girl, moved away and won't respond to my messages so she can hear about how proud I am of her for being a good mother.

These are just a few of the girls that were a part of my past, I'm not sure if I will see any of them again, but I'm glad that they stumbled into my life, for how else would I have learned these wonderful lessons?